I want to share with you the seven brutal truths no one wants to talk about. I know life is a lot easier to bury our heads in the sand and just let life pass by, but in today's world, there is no excuse for not knowing about the truths.
The reality of it is the more time we ignore the truth, the more time we spend not living life to our fullest. I am sure you know about the phrase "ignorance is bliss"; I am here to burst your bubble and tell you that isn't the case. The truth is most of want to expand our lives and grow. We want to soak up as much information as we can and learn more about life. The key is to be willing to open our minds and see the world from many different angles.
"That is what learning is. You suddenly understand something you've understood all your life, but in a new way." – Doris Lessing
Here are the 7 brutal truths no one wants to talk about.
1.) Your job isn't to make everyone happy
NO matter what you do or try, there are people in this world that you can never make happy. This is a war you will never win. The faster you grasp this truth, the sooner you can become free.
You need to understand that most people aren't going to be happy because they have formed a bond with their current place in life. For them to achieve happiness, they would have to give up their excuses, stories, and what is limiting them from becoming happy. Research states that pessimistically thinking is a pillar in a depressed person's way of processing. You can't love someone into loving themselves, nor can you force them to be happy with you.
One thing that the most successful people have, who walk this earth, is critics.
The sooner that we feel comfortable knowing that we aren't for everyone and that's OK, the sooner we won't be affected by toxic people. Life comes down to how do you see and feel about yourself.
2.) Retail Therapy Won't Make You Happy
The external things in life won't bring you happiness or joy. They are a quick fix, a band-aid if you will. Being happy is an internal choice; you could be happy right now just by using the power of gratitude.
If you get in the habit of trying to find happiness in objects, you will go down a rabbit hole that won't end. There will always be a new shiny object to buy, and as soon as you open it or try it on, you will feel amazing. As time goes on those feelings fade and you buy another item, you see the circle keeps going; you are just covering up what you need to be working on.
We don't buy things with money; we buy them with hours from our lives.
3.) If You Want the Shine, You Have to Accept the Grind
Most people see the results of someone's success and lust after it. You see in life we don't all have the same opportunities, nor do we have the same results.
Instead of telling yourself, I want this.
Ask yourself what do I want to sacrifice to get it?
There are going to be long hard days what are you willing to suffer for?
Let's pretend you want that nice, tight booty you have been lusting after on your Instagram. You have to want the sore legs, the sweaty clothes, the meal prep, the "go to the gym on days you work late and don't want to go" days.
Maybe you want to start an online business so you can work from home. You will have to give up a lot of your free time, learning new skills, forming new relationships, working long hours at first and writing out a business plan.
If you're wanting things day after day without actually thinking about what it takes or willing to make those sacrifices, then you probably don't want it.
There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure. – Colin Powell
But, if you do want to achieve it, then take a look at your routine and see what you can adjust to make it happen.
Ask yourself, "if I stay on track and do these things, where will I be in 3 months, 6 months, a year from now?"
This is key because if you can see what you want to achieve, then you can add goals and routines to support it.
4.)There is Never a Perfect Time to Start
So many people are looking for the absolute perfect time to start. Guess what? There is no ideal time.
Excuses such as these hinder us. It's too late. I am too tired. I don't have experience. I don't have enough money. What if I don't finish. You know what I am talking about.
It's easy to say, "I will do it next time it comes around or I will do it when I get some money." When it comes back around you'll have more excuses why it isn't the right time. Every time we put it off, someone is achieving it with less.
We have this illusion that time is forever and we can keep putting it off until the right moment happens, but that time never comes. Time passes by, and before you know it, you never got around to it.
When we decide to do something later, we retreat back to the comfortable zone. Our comfortable place forms a false sense of mental security. This is why we always go back to it and it's very challenging to get out of unless we put effort into changing it.
To kick yourself into gear, act now. Don't allow yourself to talk you out of it. Act as if your back is against the wall and you have to get it done. Make it urgent and achieve it.
5.) The Most Valuable Asset is Your Time
Every minute and every second, you have the opportunity to become closer to who you want to become. We never get back the time that is lost; you can't make more time. As soon as I understood this, I started to focus on things that didn't waste time. I began to ask myself, does this thing I am focused on add value to my life or is it just killing time?
The hard truth is time is ticking away. We can't produce more of it; you can't buy more time. Don't spend another second do things that aren't bringing you closer to what you desire to become as a person.
Stay focused on the things that you want and go after them.
“The trouble is, you think you have time.” -Buddha
6.) Not Everyone Treats People Like You Do
This is a hard one to understand. We see things from our perspective.
I know you probably go out of your way for others and you are looking for that same gesture in return.
There are two types of people in the world: takers and givers. Takers are self-centered and put their interests before others. Their goal is to gain as much as they can from every interaction, to give back the least amount as possible. Givers try to give as much as possible of themselves to the other person at no cost in return. They ask themselves how can I add value to someone's life, which will bring them joy. Often givers are quick to act and have a hard time understanding why they get used.
Some people will tell you what you want to hear so that you will feel more obligated to help them. They have no intentions in repaying you. This can be a real harsh truth because you have a big heart and feel amazing when you do good in others. It's completely OK to want to help others. Be aware that not everyone's intentions are the same. Be more aware of who you are dealing with. Givers should set boundaries and need to learn how.
7.) Understanding Our Issues are Completely Normal
With mental health being more of a popular topic, I think that we are starting to grasp this finally, or maybe I am just hoping this is the case. Let's be honest here; we all have some hang-ups or issues. This is normal; the important thing is that we face them and understand why we have them.
Just because we have issues or traumas from our early years doesn't mean that we were raised wrong or our parents screwed up. There are many reasons why we have issues. When we face them and understand them, then we can start to work on them, so we don't pass them down to the generations to come.
Our issues can get in the way of friendships, relationships, and the bonds we have with our children. Admitting our issues and confronting them can be very uncomfortable and this why so many shy away from dealing with them.
Don't hide away from the things that bother you, instead of facing them and be excited to learn about who you are.
I hope that me sharing with you 7 brutal truths no one wants to talk about changed your perspective and opened your eyes. Use these brutal truths to empower yourself in moving forward. Don't let them hold you back from achieving greatness.
Keep learning and believing in yourself. Every day is a new opportunity to learn something new about yourself in this incredible journey in life. Take action and become great.