Get Out of Your Way: Putting an End to Self-Sabotaging Behavior

Get Out of Your Way: Putting an End to Self-Sabotaging Behavior

Self-sabotage could be defined as deciding you want something and then making sure it doesn’t happen. Have you ever found yourself close to achieving a goal, only to throw it all away at the last moment? Did you look back later and kick yourself for being so foolish? Most of us have.

Why did you do this? There are several possible explanations, ranging from a need to control the situation to feeling unworthy. But regardless of the cause, the solutions are similar.

Eliminate self-sabotage from your life using these tips:

1. Observe yourself. Look back at the times you’ve sabotaged yourself or come up short. You probably try to justify the sabotaging behavior in your mind. But, ignore the reasons and observe the action. What conclusion would a casual observer draw from your story?

  • Learn to notice the signs of self-sabotage. How and when do you do it? Be objective and recognize your patterns.

2. Remember that success isn’t perfect. Sometimes we quit because things aren’t turning out the way we imagined. Setting more reasonable expectations can help ensure that you see things through to the end. Nothing in life is ever perfect.

  • For instance, maybe you’re in a great relationship, but you imagined there wouldn’t be any disagreements. That isn’t a practical expectation. Another common issue: Making a lot of money is helpful, but it won’t solve all of your challenges.

3. Consider the other people in your life. Self-sabotaging behavior is selfish. You’re hurting yourself and others.

  • Before you throw in the towel, consider how it will affect those around you. That might provide enough motivation to continue pressing forward.