How to Silence Your Inner Critic

How to Silence Your Inner Critic

How to Silence Your Inner Critic

We all have that inner critic that we just want to silence and to tell to "F" off. Life would be so much simpler if our inner critic would learn to chill once in a while. If you pay attention and really focus on this critic, you'll be shocked by what they say. You've never met such a negative person in your life. We most likely wouldn't put up with someone else talking to us in this manner, but we allow the abuse to continue from our inner critic. Yet we take advice from our inner critic as if they are an expert; however; nothing is more untrue.

How to change your inner dialogue:

1. Pay attention and hear what your inner critic is saying without emotion. Pause and listen for a moment. Recognize the things it says. It won't take much to realize your listening to an unhinged wacko. In fact, pay attention to your inner dialogue in general. Think about what you would say to yourself when you are doing a hobby, learning something new, or even a simple task around the house.

Negative Example:

"This sucks. I don't want to be doing this, or this is too difficult. I'm done!. I'm going to go watch T.V."

You turn the T.V. on... I like this show, but the acting sucks, and there are too many commercials. I am going to get something to eat.

The girl in the movie reminds me of Amber from college. She always wore tight clothes that fit her amazing figure. I wonder if she ever married John. I should have slept with him when I had the chance, but he never looked at me. I was fat back then, and I should have never dated his friend instead.

I'm still overweight and can barely move because I am stuck deep in the cushions of this damn couch. If my dad had treated me better, I wouldn't have an addiction to food that loves me back. I loved to watch that fat ass Nutty Professor when I was a kid..."

***What would you think if you were next to someone talking out loud like this to themselves? You'd be slowly moving away, looking for the nearest exit. Yet this is precisely how we speak to ourselves. The key is to recognize that you are listening to someone you would run from in real life. There is no need to take inner dialogue so seriously and drag it around with you and then believe it as an authority over you.

2. What would you say to a child or a friend in the same situation? Imagine what a close friend you trust would say to you. The words they would use, comments and advice would be vastly different from how your inner dialogue criticizes you.

* When your critical dialog starts, ignore the criticism and consciously practice being as gentle with yourself as you would to a friend or a child.

It's funny how your life improves when you surround yourself with positive, affirming, accepting, and non-judgmental people.