How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level
In every relationship there are times where you feel ready to take things to the next level. This might mean that you’re ready to be exclusive, you want a more serious commitment, you want to move in together, and so on. When that time comes, how do you go about doing it and how do you know if it’s right? Follow these tips for taking your relationship to the next level:
You both have to want it. Taking the relationship to the next level will only work when you both want it. If one person wants to be exclusive and the other wants to date other people, it’s never going to work. You need to both be on the same page about wanting to advance things to the next level.
If you want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind wanders.
Think about why you want it. Do you want to commit to the relationship because you’re in love and you feel like it’s the next step in solidifying your relationship? Or are you doing it because you’re afraid of losing them? Or maybe you feel pressured by your friends or partner? Think about the reasons behind wanting to take it to the next level and make sure they are the right ones. Maybe it's real love and you know it's what you really want.
Is the timing right? It’s important to consider the timing when you’re thinking of taking things to the next level. Did you just start dating or have you been together for a long time? Some decisions like deciding to be exclusive can be right after even just a few dates, and others, like moving in together shouldn’t be rushed and should only be considered when you’ve known each other long enough to be secure in the decision.
Be clear about what you want. If you’re sure about what you want then it’s time to talk about it with your partner and let them know what you’re thinking of. Be clear with them about what you want. If you’re wishy-washy they won’t really be sure about what you’re asking. Make it really simple for them and be clear about what you want the next step to be.
Don’t skip ahead. It’s fun to imagine your future together but try not to get too far ahead of yourself and stick to moving up one step at a time. Don’t rush into moving in before you talk about committing to each other, or don’t scare your partner off by talking about your wedding and future babies if you just want to be exclusive. Take it one step at a time.
Have a plan. Have a plan when you talk to your partner about taking it to the next level and your conversation will go more smoothly. And have an idea in mind about what specifically you want from them. But….be prepared to be flexible. Your plan shouldn’t be set in stone and should leave room for your partner’s feedback and ideas too.