You might be asking what an Inner Child is? How do I know if I have one? Well first off we all have an inner child. You see, our inner child is with us even when we grow into the adults we are today. I think we know as adults that how we are raised plays a big part in who we are today, but I am not sure that many of us understand that bettering the relationship with our inner child can help us become a better person. Our inner child is responsible for our involuntary joy, intelligence, overall sense of well being, and the way we express ourselves.
The inner child in us is desired to be loved, cared, and nurtured. Sometimes, growing up those needs fell short from the ones that raised and guided us. Now that we are adults, it is up to us to re-parent our inner child.
'It sounds corny, but I've promised my inner child that never again will I ever abandon myself for anything or anyone else again.' - Wynonna Judd
Broken Inner Child
Inevitably in the process of growing up, most of us undergo some incident of fear in our childhood. It could be a single incident, but it's our first taste of rejection, let down, abandonment, or failure from adults around us. The way our parents or the ones that guided speak to us as a child become our inner voices as adults. We continue to talk to our inner child-like those adults who spoke to us when we were young.
Inner Child Coping
When a child experiences fear rejection or abandonment for the first time, they don't have enough intelligence to understand or process it. These will start to show in the child as fear ( feminine ) or anger (masculine).
The child develops unhealthy coping skills to numb the pain. Over time these become habits of overeating, pornography, dependent relationships, or violence.
Losing Touch With Our Inner Child
As we start to take more on life as young adults and