SET NEW BOUNDARIES AND Enjoy Healthier Relationships

SET NEW BOUNDARIES AND Enjoy Healthier Relationships

Set New Boundaries and Enjoy Healthier Relationships

All relationships need boundaries to remain healthy. Consider certain things you discuss with your best friend that you’d never discuss with your child or your mother. Boundaries help to determine how much you give and receive from a relationship. If any of your relationships are leaving you irritable and overwhelmed, reexamine your boundaries.

The boundaries you set in your relationships are a reflection of your ego and self-esteem:

  • If you have a low sense of self-worth, your boundaries will be unhealthy. You’ll be likely to be too focused on trying to please others and receive love and approval. You’ll be overextending yourself and demanding too little from others.

  • If your ego is over-inflated, your boundaries are aggressively set to maximize your own utility. It’s your way or the highway.

4 Surprising Questions to Keep Your Love Alive

For your most pleasing results, seek a middle ground when setting boundaries.

Using these strategies will help you set boundaries that are empowering for both parties:

1. Decide on your core values. What is your comfort level? Are you comfortable discussing your personal finances with others? Do you like friends or family just showing up at your front door, or would you like a little warning? Are you willing to let others borrow your car, money, or a cup of sugar? How much honesty do you want to give and receive?