The Power of Personal Boundaries
Personal boundaries are essential for several reasons. They serve as barriers to protect your self-esteem. They are also tools for establishing limits with others and communicating that you won’t tolerate certain behaviors. Those without personal boundaries commonly end up in less than ideal situations and relationships.
Without limits, you’re a victim to the whims of those around you. Personal boundaries are about respecting yourself and demanding respect from others.
Establish healthy emotional boundaries with these tips:
1. Value yourself. You have the ability to set your own boundaries as you see fit. Few people will treat you better than you demand, so take responsibility for taking care of yourself. Unfortunately, no one else is going to take responsibility for your well-being.
2. Define yourself. Decide who you are, what you want to be, and how you deserve to be treated. What are you willing to accept from others? What are you no longer willing to accept?
If you don’t define yourself, the rest of the world will do it for you. And you won’t like it.
3. Place a priority on yourself. Others are important, but they’re not any more important than you. If you take care of yourself first, you’re in a better position to take care of others. Running yourself ragged for others isn’t helping anyone.
You’ll be a better parent, spouse, and employee if you take good care of yourself.
4. Consider where you need to set limits in your life. Maybe you need to put an end to volunteering to work Saturdays or stop accepting emotional abuse from your boyfriend. Maybe you’re just too willing to loan money to people that never pay you back. You get in life what you’re willing to tolerate. What are you no longer willing to tolerate?
5. Make your boundaries firm and clear. Make your boundaries reasonable but clear to others. If others know where you stand on certain issues, there’s less chance for confusion or miscommunication. It’s possible to have boundaries that are too strict.
If you’re alone and overly self-sufficient, you’re probably suffering from overly strict personal boundaries.