What is being Self-Aware?
Self-awareness is having a high degree of knowledge about yourself. It's awareness of your habits, emotional tendencies, needs, desires, strengths, and weaknesses. Having a high level of self-awareness is a powerful tool. It allows you to change your life more effectively since you know how you tick. Those that lack self-awareness find life to be frustrating.
Secrets to discovering your Self Awareness:
1. Be aware and mindful of your thoughts. Our minds are always churning through ideas and coming with commentary that seems never to end. You can admire the birds flying over the water; your mind chimes in with a comment, "What a gorgeous view." Then the journey begins.
- Take notice of your thinking patterns. In the moments when you are nervous, what are you thinking? Bored? Intrigued? Walking down the hall to your office? Try to match up similar situations result in identical thought patterns.
- Do you judge people and situations? Do you spend much time thinking about the past or the future? Do you expect the worst to happen or the best? Or do you adopt an attitude of, "Let's just see what happens"?
2. Notice your feelings. What are you feeling throughout the day? What do you think while you're eating? Driving to work? Lying in bed? Waiting in line?
- Once you've noticed your emotion, question it. What am I feeling? Why? What do I need right now? How do I usually react in this situation? Is that smart?
I stopped telling myself that I am lost. I’m not. I’m on a journey, driven by the hope that one day I will find a place where I can rest and be me.
3. Understand how you deal with frustration or emotional discomfort. A massive chunk of your time is spent trying to make yourself feel better. If you feel slightly frustrated or uncomfortable, then you may spend a tremendous amount of time and energy trying to change the situation or the others around you to resolve those negative feelings.
- Do you try to control others? Do you attempt to distract yourself? Is your first instinct to leave the situation? Do you surf the internet or eat a big bowl of ice cream?
4. Examine your friendships. Where do you find your friends? Are most of your relationships long-term or short? When your friendships end, what is the common cause? What types of people do you prefer to be friends with? What types of people do you avoid?
5. Examine your intimate relationships. Do you see a pattern in the type of people that you've been involved with? What are the negative characteristics your ex's all share? Why do you think those types of people appealed to you?
- What were your shortcomings in your relationships? Are you clingy? Jealous? Too focused on work? Failed to communicate your needs? Think about how you contributed to the failure of your relationships.
- Have you changed your approach from relationship to relationship, or do you continue to repeat your mistakes?
6. Keep a journal. There's no better way to learn about yourself than to record your thoughts, feelings, and experiences each day. Studies have shown that we don't remember our past very accurately, so record it while it's still fresh in your mind. Be sure to include your high and low points for the day. I recommend my journal (Start Your Morning Off Write: Your Guided Journal to Self Love.)
- Note how well you ate and slept, too. You might find some useful information.
- Create a habit of writing in your journal for at least 15 minutes each day. You'll start to notice patterns and learn a lot about yourself.
Understanding yourself might be the most critical piece of your self-development puzzle. If you don't understand yourself, it is not easy to apply all the great information today. Maintain an awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Examine and question them. You'll be surprised by what you find & NO it won't drive you insane.