Why do people crave attention? For starters, we all need some level of attention because we are social creatures. Soon as we are born, we get attention unconditionally from our parents or other loved ones.
I think the real question that we should be asking is, why do some people appear to be putting in extra effort to gain more attention?
For example, a guy goes out, buys a big lifted truck, and drives it around, revving the engine to get attention. He's attention-seeking to the extent that it comes off irrational.
As I stated in my book "Inner Child Healing - Parenting from Within," that our childhood traumas can change the way we respond when we reach adulthood. People who appear to be addicted to extra attention were brought up in such a way that makes them feel valued when they are reward attention. (Even if the attention is negative)
In this article, I will share with you some real-life examples that people have shared with me and one I have witnessed.
It has taken me a while but I finally don’t crave your attention, or love. I have begun to accept who I am now.
Reasons why some people crave attention
Growing up, I had no brothers and sisters, yep, that's right. I'm an only child. I can first hand say that often when a single child grows up, they are used to be the center of attention. When that child (like me) becomes an adult, they will often try to replicate the lifestyle that feels comfortable from childhood. This is why it is prevalent for an only child to crave attention from others as an adult.
In my teens, I was very self-aware and began to call myself out when I noticed that I was acting out in a way to seek attention - even negative attention. It has always been a thing in the back of my mind, and often at parties or family gatherings, I was the life of the party. The trick is to know when it can be too much for others in the room. I had to learn that not all attention is necessary and that I am responsible for the way that I feel.
Some people might feel unappreciated or overlooked in certain situations, and that is why they crave attention. Whenever I am a large group of people talking about self-help, there is at least one person who will try to cut me off mid-sentence to show they know more about the subject that I do. This person feels he or she is overlooked and is doing their best to gain some attention.
If someone has a superiority complex can be a possibility why a person would crave attention. People sometimes get themselves into dangerous behaviors to get attention.
We see can see a great example of this on youtube, how many different controversial challenges have been out there in the past few years? (Tide Pod Challenge, Cinnamon Challenge, Bird Box Challenge.) Often people that use this kind of behavior to achieve attention are doing it also to cover up their flaws. If someone comes off superior, then it will be less likely that others will look at what they lack in other areas, or this is at least how the person that is craving attention thinks.
Someone that feels jealous that another person is in the spotlight more than they are might crave attention as well. We can see a good result of this when a child in the house is getting more attention than the other or when someone steals the attention from the opposite sex that another person was getting. This can happen when someone is favored over someone else.
Can someone stop craving attention?
The good news is that we can stop craving attention from others once we can to the root cause of the underlying reason we are seeking it in the first place. For example, if a woman keeps escaping her feelings about how she feels about herself, she might seek attention from others to fill that void.
Now, if she heals that void that she has inside herself, she will won't go negatively searching for others' attention anymore.
When we learn to heal the reason that we are craving the attention, we are in more control of our lives. When we aren't looking for others to make us happy or to validate who we are, we control when we want others to be in our lives or not. I say this often; if you are looking for others to feed us, they can also starve us. If we are seeking others to feed us attention, they can take the attention away as well and starve us. If we don't heal the root cause of her, then we are easily manipulated to get our fix of that attention because we are craving it.
Most of us like attention, the key is always to consider if it's harmful and unhealthy and always consider who you're getting it from.